Winter is here and the cold weather has some people jumping on the “cuffing season” bandwagon by getting into unhealthy relationships to remain warm and keep from being lonely during this bitter season. While romantic relationships have their place, sometimes we place a lot of focus on them and not enough on other relationships. At a time where everyone prides themselves on independence, voluntary isolation is glorified. People want to succeed by themselves, but the truth is, you can’t make it alone.
When it comes to your assignment, there are people that are attached to you. Who are your friends? Good friends make you better. They see the greatness in you and speak to that part of you. They aren’t trying to compete with you, but they are working with you and rooting for you to be the best version of yourself. Some people have been hurt by friends in the past, so they’re skeptical of accepting and being vulnerable with new people. There are some people who come into our lives only for a season and we have to learn to let them go. Others are long term, even lifelong friends who want nothing but the best for you. Good, kingdom relationships are not random. They are intentional and have certain components to them that you can recognize.
Kingdom friends are people you can trust. You can be vulnerable with them and they won’t throw it back in your face. They are a safe haven for your private business, information, and emotions.
Kingdom friends make you better, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Sometimes they will affirm you in your feelings, but kingdom friends will not tell you what you want to hear just to make you feel better. They tell you what you need to know. Their purpose is to raise you to a higher version of yourself, so if you’re wrong, they will let you know. If you are not being your best, they will tell you. It may make you uncomfortable, and even offend you sometimes, but you realize that it is to make you into a better person.
Kingdom friends have an impact on you. Your life would be more difficult without them. Kingdom friends come into your life to help solve a problem for you and if you’re a kingdom friend, you do the same. You make life easier for each other. It’s not that you could never live without them, but your life would noticeably be more difficult if they were removed from your life.
Kingdom friends don’t compete with you. They are excited for you when you succeed because they were rooting for you the whole time. They envisioned you succeeding even when you doubted yourself. When you finally succeed, they are jealous of you, but they are celebrating with you. They are secure in their own life and know that your journey is yours They don’t have to be jealous of what you’re doing because they’re secure in what they are doing.
Kingdom friends solve a problem for you. You may enjoy spending time with them, but they also help to solve a problem for you. Sometimes you call them just to talk, but you also know that you can call them for a specific reason. They are specialists in something. If you have a few good friends, you know what each one contributes to your life and you call each of them for a specific reason.
Kingdom relationships are not random. They are a gift from God, orchestrated by Him, to make you ten times better. When you are in alignment with His plan, He sends people to your life to make it better and make it easier to accomplish what God has instructed for you. He also sends you to other people so you can be that same positivity in their lives. Who are your friends? What people has he sent you to be a good friend to? Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” When you have a few strong, kingdom friendships, you are not easily broken. Accept those friendships and be willing to be that friend to someone else. You will be made stronger through them.