We’ve been talking about mentors for the past couple weeks at The Revolution and last week you read about how to find a good mentor. Finding a good mentor benefits your life because they help you to see things you couldn’t see before. They help you go further faster by teaching you through example and holding you to a high standard because they can see the greatness in you.
Sitting under the wisdom of a mentor is good, but there comes a time in every mentoring relationship where the mentee has to become a mentor. Mentoring life is lived on three levels: those who are ahead of you, those who are with you, and those who are behind you and all three should be cultivated at all times. It’s important for mentees to become mentors because you never truly learn something until you have to teach it.
If you’ve never been a mentor before, you may be wondering how to go about preparing yourself to become one. There may be someone who is considering asking you for advice and mentoring them, but there are a few things to consider before saying yes or no to the request. You can begin by asking yourself:
Who am I here for? Legacy is not about what you leave behind, but who you are producing. When you pour the wisdom and knowledge you have into a person, you can guarantee that your legacy will live on much longer than you will. Who should you build relationships with? Mentoring isn’t just about giving information, but building a relationship with your mentee. The mentee should be someone you feel you can trust. It’s through this kind of relationship that you transfer wisdom to them.
What can I cultivate in someone else? One person can’t be everything to anyone. God puts different people in our lives to help us in certain areas. What is something that you can pass onto someone else? What can you help someone else grow in?
What are the expectations? Mentors are meant to call mentees to a high standard. They accept you for where you are, but they are not comfortable with leaving you there. If you see potential in someone, what kind of expectations will you put on them and the relationship to help them become better than they already are? Mentor relationships require sacrifice on both sides. In addition to the expectations you put on them, which ones will you put on yourself to be the best mentor you can be? Also, it will be healthy to ask them what they expect from you too. It can provide clarity on what the relationship should become. Give them what they need based on what they express.
You don’t have to have all the knowledge in the world to be a mentor. It’s not about teaching, but reproducing what’s already in you. You teach what you know, but you reproduce what you are. Mentoring someone else will cost you time and vulnerability, but if you pour into the right people, it will be worth it. It’s easy to get caught up in our own businesses, projects, and personal endeavors, but when we give our time and energy into other people, it will be more fruitful than any other venture we could do by ourselves.